Love Hurts, Truth Hurts, Beauty Hurts, But Suicide is Painless?

Life is hard, and then you die . . . attributed to Adam, husband of Eve, after having eaten of the fruit of the tree

Life is what happens to us when we are making other plans. __ Allen Saunders Publishers Syndicate (two decades before John Lennon’s Beautiful Boy)

Everything that is worthwhile in life, will bring us pain.

It is impossible to love deeply without opening ourselves to a million different pains.

We believe we spend a lifetime in pursuit of truth, but we spend far more time obscuring the truth. In fact nothing is more painful than a strategically inflicted truth.

Have you ever seen, heard, touched, or imagined something that was so beautiful that it made you cry? Cut you through the heart like a sharp knife?

The sword of time will pierce our skins
It doesn’t hurt when it begins
But as it works its way on in
The pain grows stronger watch it grin

[But] suicide is painless
It brings on many changes
And I can take or leave it if I please __Suicide is Painless by Johnny Mandel

The passage of time gives us the opportunity to learn, grow, and pass along good things and feelings to others. But it also eventually wears us down, and rubs us out like an eraser.

All the marvelous ways we have of forgetting the passage of time. We say we are killing time but really we are just ignoring time while time is killing us. What can people do? Is it enough to be wise and to age gracefully, to achieve balance and peace of mind? Al Fin, Hobbling Time

We are programmed by modern culture to see the search for happiness as the reason for our lives. But happiness cannot be found through searching, nor can it be granted by others. Most people are more likely to find happiness when they forget themselves, if just for a moment or two. Some people are never happy unless they are hurting or dominating others.

We have barely begun to delve into the Science of Happiness. The truths that we find may be just a bit painful.

We will make mistakes. We will probably suffer many failures. Even the best humans have been wrong — most of them repeatedly. These mistakes and failures are painful.

At the end of all our struggles and pain, we will fade, and die.

But in the meantime, we can choose many of the truths we learn, much of the beauty we experience, and the bounty of loves that we love. And though we will suffer for it, we will also have the joy. We will touch happiness, pleasure, and bliss. And we will have the chance to reach beyond ourselves to future generations — if we think we have something worthwhile to pass along. The satisfaction of performing the function of a sturdy bridge between the past and the future can be worth it, no matter how brief.

This is the essence: Not to always avoid pain, for pain is inevitable. But to learn what to do with the inevitable pain that we will experience.

And no, suicide is not usually painless. As an impulsive act of anger or despair, it can leave a trail of pain behind that ruins many lives, in chain reaction. Only when one reaches the end of the ability to enjoy satisfaction in life — in terminal illness, for example — does suicide approach the ideal of painlessness.

The better one understands the human condition, the more important the traits of courage and foresight become.

Hope for the best. Plan for the worst. Never abandon the playfulness of childhood. Use your strength and cleverness for the good of those you love.


To each his sufferings: all are men,
Condemned alike to groan;
The tender for another’s pain,
The unfeeling for his own.
Yet ah! why should they know their fate?
Since sorrow never comes too late,
And happiness too swiftly flies.
Thought would destroy their paradise.
No more; where ignorance is bliss,
‘Tis folly to be wise. —Thomas Gray

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1 Response to Love Hurts, Truth Hurts, Beauty Hurts, But Suicide is Painless?

  1. Matt Musson says:

    I hear choppers, Hawkye.

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