The Brief, Exhilarating Eroticism of Youth

“With girls, Nature has had in view what is called in a dramatic sense a ‘striking effect’, for she endows them for a few years with a richness of beauty and a fullness of charm at the expense of the rest of their lives; so that they may during these years ensnare the fantasy of a man to such a degree as to make him rush into taking the honourable care of them, in some kind of form, for a lifetime – a step which would not seem sufficiently justified if he only considered the matter.” _Schopenhauer, “On Women”

Transient Beauty in Jakarta

Transient Beauty in Jakarta

Girls of Jakarta

The beauty and eroticism of youth is powerfully striking. It can be of great use to the young woman who knows what to do with it, and a great curse to the young woman who does not. In the field of prostitution, youthful beauty is a highly profitable asset. But in that often rough and tumble world that frequently is mixed with drug abuse and every bad health habit known to man, youthful beauty fades even more quickly than in girls living more conventional lives.

Catherine Hakim, a research fellow at the London School of Economics, has published a book entitled “Honey Money: The Power of Erotic Capital.” The book discusses the erotic power that women are capable of wielding, and bemoans the lack of awareness of this power on the part of too many young women.

According to Hakim, there’s a ”beauty premium’’ in the workplace – she cites a US survey that found good-looking lawyers earn between 10 and 12 per cent more than dowdier colleagues. Hakim also claims the ”beauty premium’’ makes it more likely that an attractive person will land a job in the first place, and then be promoted. And, says Hakim, erotic capital isn’t limited to the boardroom – ”marriages where the wife is more attractive are happier than those where the husband is the more attractive’’. _Telegraph



If the young woman “strikes while the iron is hot”, or “makes hay while the sun shines,” she is able to leverage her youthful beauty into a long lasting advantage for herself and her children.

…erotic capital – has until now been ignored but, according to Hakim, is just as important as the other three [ed: economic capital, social capital, human capital] and may be even more so because it affects you from the moment you are born. This last point … is dubious. Money surely makes a big difference from early childhood too, as does intelligence.

Hakim has assembled a good deal of evidence to show what we know already: that life tends to be easier and more rewarding for the beautiful. But far from saying that this is unfair, she argues it is just as it should be: the attractive are nicer to be with, get on with people better and are, therefore, more productive.

And so Hakim urges women to make the most of their erotic capital. Don’t waste your years of beauty on frumpiness and grumpiness, she urges young women. Maximise your assets and use them to get ahead.

Some of this reminds one of maverick feminist Camille Paglia — particularly Hakim’s emphasis on erotic power and capital.

Virgin Sacrifices Made to a Dysfunctional Culture

Virgin Sacrifices Made to a Dysfunctional Culture

We are living through a particularly parched and dry sexual cycle — in no small part due to the dominant constipated radical feminist ethos. Rather than liberating women, modern hyper-continent feminism attempts to paint women into an ideological and lifestyle corner, with little freedom of choice or movement other than to follow the PC dictates of feminist dogma. The beauty, eroticism, and fecundity of youth are thereby sacrificed to the shriveled and bloodless mindset of rigid, brittle feminist ideology.

For young women, puberty is a treacherous passage which is only rarely traversed in optimal fashion. Peer pressure, popular culture, and dysfunctional ideology combine in oppressive fashion to flog the unprepared youth along from hazard to hazard. And when the accoutrements of eroticism — desire for companionship, home, family — are not skillfully integrated with the passion — the eroticism can tend to die too early. The desire for home and family can then either remain unfulfilled, or be realised in a tragically sterile and passionless way.

Sex and eroticism need to maintain elements of both daring and innocence. Of the forbidden and of the earned adventure. When eroticism is hobbled by dogma — either religious or political (as in leftist feminism) — the fun and excitement drains away.

No one can tell you what to do with your erotic capital. But you should know what it is, and how to use it if needs be. Everyone should be given that opportunity.

Too many young women begin to lose their erotic appeal, just as they are beginning to learn how to use it in a functional way, for their long term benefit. Most likely, they have received very little help from their parents in understanding their erotic capital. Modern child-raising methods too often either ignore a young woman’s burgeoning sexuality, or try to suppress it as long as possible. A father is not supposed to notice his daughter’s sexuality, and a mother is frequently too envious of her daughter to give her proper assistance in understanding what is happening to her.

Because eroticism is tied in to sexuality — and sexuality is tied in to pregnancy, emotional turbulence, and STDs — parents are naturally cautious when introducing their children to erotic ideas. This leaves the field of eroticism open to popular culture and peer pressure, which almost never have the best interest of youth in mind.

Advertising culture and popular entertainments geared toward youth distort sexuality and eroticism in a manner meant to induct youth into unthinking habits of consumption and counter-productive approaches to sexual exchange. When dysfunctional feminist anti-eroticism and anti-femininity are thrown into the perverse mixture, a young woman is quite lucky to have any erotic thoughts or feelings which she can call her own.

Still, as Tom Robbins said, “It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.” But it would be better if it were to happen the first time through, in the context of wise and loving parents, in the midst of a wise and functional culture.

First published in this form on Al Fin blog. It was adapted and expanded from an article previously published at Al Fin, You Sexy Thing!

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7 Responses to The Brief, Exhilarating Eroticism of Youth

  1. Stephen says:

    Yeah, I miss Al Fin, You Sexy Thing.

  2. Steve Johnson says:

    “Too many young women begin to lose their erotic appeal, just as they are beginning to learn how to use it in a functional way, for their long term benefit.”


    It’s not like the learning takes so long that it only happens after her looks fade – it’s that when her looks fade she tries to cash out of the game.

  3. Ugh says:

    As a father going to the strip club lost all appeal (not that I was a regular) when my beautiful daughter began to blossom. I just kept thinking I was ogling some other father’s little girl. It was a weird sensation – partly cultural to be sure, but it also seemed a very natural reaction.

    I can agree that anything less than extraordinarily self-assured women in the mother role will sabotage her daughter and her family with jealousy over the daughter’s ascension into erotic beauty. This especially if she herself was just such a beauty in her youth.

  4. James Bowery says:

    One way to think of it is that women are being converted into biological weapons. A great deal of civilization’s group selection warfare is conducted in this manner.

    Some women retain enough humanity that it disrupts their efficiency as weapons. These are quite plentiful. One can only admire the tenacity of human spirit displayed as they actually get across a message, sort of like Linda Blair’s “help me” inflamed on her stomach in the Exorcist:

    “Until you take down this Hell you call civilization, we’ll only get worse.”

    For instance this recent TED talk by Anne-Marie Slaughter contains this cry for help:

    “The kind of change required is resocializing men… We know that lots of women still judge the attractiveness of a man based in large part on how successful he is in his career.”

    Now some might think she’s merely asking to be bitch-slapped by getting up on stage and saying something like that. But of course, that’s not what she’s doing at all. She’s displaying her ethnic gangs in the prison system that back up her spewing vile excreta like this at men — back her up with the threat of HIV prisoner gang rape of any man who bitch-slaps her. This isn’t just to torment men. It is pointing out to them the structure of evil that must be destroyed — the structure of civilization. It’s compassionate in its perverse way — sort of like a degraded version of the smallpox virus that irritates the immune system just enough to let it see what is going on.

    As I said, examples of this cry for the demolition of civilization coming from women are quite plentiful.

    • Robert says:

      Prison ethnic gang rape could only happen after the desegregation of the prison system.

  5. GoneWithTheWind says:

    Beauty in a woman is both a blessing and a curse. Modest beauty; a girl next door look, and an average body will probably lead to and allow a better life. Very few “beautiful” or “stunning” women are happy for long and being satisfied with their life and relationships is even more elusive.

  6. swampie says:

    Whatever. I grew up, fell in love, married, had children. Ran a construction company at one point. Wasn’t ever particularly concerned about making a statement.

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