Nothing Gives Closure to Grief Like a Stripper on a Pole
Pictures of a funeral in the city of Handan in northern Hebei province last month showed a dancer removing her bra as assembled parents and children watched. They were widely circulated online…
… The point of inviting strippers, some of whom performed with snakes, was to attract large crowds to the deceased’s funeral – seen as a harbinger of good fortune in the afterlife. “It’s to give them face,” one villager explained. “Otherwise no one would come.
CCTV found about a dozen funeral performance troupes offering such services in every village in the county, putting on as many as 20 shows a month at a rate of 2,000 yuan ($322) a pop…
… The practice there dates back decades. _WSJ
This should be a hopeful sign to China watchers, who cannot help but note the life-affirming nature of the performance of the stripping ritual at a good-bye ceremony for the dearly departed.
Al Fin was initiated into the erotic aspects of death and funerals when a 13 year old girl practically raped him, while she was in the throes of grief over a classmate’s death. Of course, Al Fin was 14 at the time, so if you were starting to call the constable, put down the phone.
The movie “Animal House” features the tradition of “grief sex” when Otter elicits intimate consolation from the roommate of a recently deceased coed, when he claims to be the dead girl’s grieving boyfriend.
It is well known that scary movies can make girls horny. The brains of many young women apparently contain short circuits between the fear centres and the erogenous centres. Something similar apparently can happen with grief.
From Medieval Death and the Maiden imagery to the modern cemetery as an after-hours sex den, the link between sexual arousal and death has been a long-noted aspect of the human sex drive.
… The very act of confronting death sends up a primal drive to reassert life in the form of virile sexual expression. This impulse is commonly thought to manifest exclusively in the psychopathy of deviants, but sexual arousal in response to death imagery and near death experiences is actually an impulse based on affirmation of life, rather than a desire for death. __ Death and Eroticism
That sounds right. Al Fin has certainly never felt more alive than just after cheating death on various occasions. The Euphoria at such times can certainly contain erotic and strongly life-affirming overtones.
Eroticism is assenting to life up to the point of death. __ Georges Bataille PDF
So when grieving Chinese families hire strippers for a loved one’s funeral, they are not simply trying to attract larger crowds to honour the dearly departed. They are actually appealing to the inner transcendence we all contain — without which we would be something less than fully human. They are saying, “Yes, we are sad. But we are also looking past this death to all the living that needs to be done, despite the sadness.”
Let’s hope that the Chinese authorities do not kill one of the more enlightened and promising aspects to modern Chinese culture under the soul-numbing CCP.