What Do Women Want? Laughter and Letting Go

Women like to laugh. A man who can make the ladies laugh is always in demand, because when she is laughing she is not worrying. Ordinarily women worry. A lot. About everything. But given an excuse to let go, a lot of women will take it. Dr. Jeffrey Hall, professor of Communications at U. Kansas, made this discovery:

 Hall brought together 51 pairs of single, heterosexual college students who were strangers. The pairs sat alone in a room and talked for about 10 minutes while they were being videotaped and tape-recorded.

Afterward, they rated how attracted they were to the other person. While the results didn’t report that one sex tried to be funnier than the other, they did suggest that the more times a man tried to be funny and the more times a woman laughed at his jokes, the more likely the woman was romantically interested.


Sure, if a woman is interested in a man, she will laugh at his jokes even if the humor eludes her. But if the laughter is genuine — and she is truly letting herself go in the moment — for that short period of time there is a back door to her heart that is open.

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It helps if the man has learned to not take himself too seriously all the time. There is something funny about the normally responsible man who sometimes lets himself be the jester that others can laugh at.

What are some other ways women may choose to “let go?”

An increasing number of women are escaping their worries by drinking alcohol, or taking drugs. This is a quick and easy but risky way of escaping worries and responsibilities. The consequences can be very harsh, even deadly if drinking and driving are combined.

In most environments, danger is not far away. Situational awareness can keep a person safe, even in a dangerous environment. But alcohol and drugs will blunt your situational awareness, and leave you vulnerable to danger.

Another way of letting go is losing yourself in a group of people, and just doing whatever everyone else is doing. If the group is doing something healthy and beneficial, you will be better off. If the group is doing something destructive and risky, your luck may run out.

Women like to dance. Letting the man lead is a way of letting go. Or just free-form dancing where the freedom of movement itself is a form of letting go.

Love is yet another way a woman can let go. Scientific studies help us to understand why a woman needs to “let go” in order to fully experience the pleasure of being with her lover. The executive functions of the prefrontal cortex must be temporarily suspended in order for the deeper centers of the brain in the insula, nucleus accumbens, hippocampus, and other areas involved in love and pleasure, to light up.

When a woman dreams in sleep, she may lose herself in more intense emotions than the typical mundane worries and concerns of the everyday world. If she has learned to “let go” in her dreams — or to combine “letting go” with lucid dreaming — she may be able to visit wonderlands in her sleeping dreams that have her smiling for no reason the next morning.

The best way of letting go for anyone is to meditate. In a deep meditative state, one’s worries fall away, and with practice problems become easier to solve.

When a woman’s mind is freed up from worry, she is able to experience other aspects of her existence which may be denied her ordinarily.

The thing to remember is that although women will naturally worry all the time about everything, they tend to crave the opportunity to let go of those worries. If a woman’s lover fails to provide healthy and safe opportunities for letting go, the woman’s dissatisfaction may grow to unhealthy levels.

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1 Response to What Do Women Want? Laughter and Letting Go

  1. Rudolf Huber says:

    Very, very true. Smart men create a bubble a woman feels safe in. She will do whatever to stay in the bubble. And the best is that you can tell her what you are doing. They will admire you more for the balls you have by being honest.

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